Friday, December 2, 2011

What.You.Need.


The Holiday season emphasizes on the spirit of giving, but it also indirectly forces you to ask yourself what do you want. When you lead with the "want you want" mentality in a relationship or dating you often will fail to consider what you need. Desire can propel an union for some time, but in the end, it is what you need from another person, which will tie you to them. You are probably all familiar with the expression, "that's what you want, not what you need." Often or not we may be clouded by our physical desires, which lead us to settle for people even if they are incapable of giving us what we need in the long run. There is this saying that I find often rings true, "they are not the right one, but the one for right now."
Many of you are certainly happy and settled down with the person who is exactly what you need, but others are caught in the web of lusting after someone who isn't ultimately their perfect mate and doesn't have what they need. For those of you who find yourself lost, consider the horoscopes below, which attempt to supply prospective guidance on how to pine after the perfect match. If you don't identify with your star sign, you might not agree with the prescriptions. If you have a cusp birthday or one that lands closer to another sign (even if you are within a week of the sign change) try reading both of the horoscopes which you fall on.
Aquarius Man (January 20- February 19): He needs a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, confident with herself and not a jealous type. She needs to be able to handle his flirtatious and charming nature just as she has to be equally understanding of his many female acquaintances. AQ man is likely (in some regard) still tied to one or more his exes. As stated in previous blogs, his attractions don't necessarily fade over time, but his level of commitment will enhance if AQ is interested in you emotionally and long term. The woman that catches AQ's eye will have to be aesthetically pleasing and perhaps a bit adventure seeking and worldly. AQ doesn't usually discriminate against beauty, and finds attraction in many different species, races, and sizes, however, Aquarius man is looking for a balance between what he finds beautiful aesthetically and what he find beautiful intellectually. It is best not to let AQ think he has you too soon. Your element of mystery and and independence will only entice AQ further. AQ male  needs an outgoing partner who wants to travel, experience and enhance their life in a non-conventional and highly eccentric way. Therefore he needs a partner who is not only patient but willing to think outside the box and let AQ take his time on conventional aspects of commitment. AQ man is aloof, often detached and likes his own space, so if he lets you in, it is with good reason. It is unlikely that he will change for you, he does not adapt to others, others have to adapt to him.
Aquarius Women (January 20-February 19): He'll need to roll out the red carpet from time to time, but she'll settle for a car door, or a subtle cute gesture. She's not demanding romance but if you present her with it she will be pleasantly surprised. She doesn't always think the best of men, but she is a deep thinker by nature, and will often see an ending in someone soon before she sees a bright beginning. It's not to say she's a raging feminist but just that she's not afraid to put a man in his place. She expects a certain level of respect from her man. She's not likely one to put up with abuser or shitty douche bags, and if she does, she will learn fast and become even more skeptical about love. AQ is known as being the sign, which is most skeptical about love in general. You will have to sincerely impress either the AQ male or female before they can believe you. AQ needs a partner who is emotionally strong and expressive, someone who isn't afraid of love so they can teach AQ how to open up.  AQ needs to meet a partner she will take chances with, someone she can emotionally open up to and doesn't second guess. Often AQ women  will suffer from what this blog would like to coin as the 'Jenifer Aniston complex'. As a AQ female she attracts many suitors, and has experienced vast degrees of love, but it has taken her a long time to find true love. This is because she has likely always felt a disregard towards her past lovers, and something within her didn't allow her to completely devote or open up. She loves the idea of being in love, but often isn't truly in love to the level, which she could be. Her thoughts needs to stay positive and loving in order for her interest in you to blossom. You will have to impress this tantalizing, eccentric and brainy women with your wits, emotional truth and a little chivalry. 
Libra Man (September 23-August 22): Like AQ, he will be flirty, playful and aloof at times, so he won't be able to deal with emotional insecurity in his life. If his woman is highly emotional or jealous he will run away, fly about until he finds some peace of mind. He might return to her, but only after the drama has settled. He wants to enjoy life and can't be held down by restraints. Libra man needs a women to present ideas of control, but he does not want to be controlled. He will not take well to you telling him how to live. You will have to suggest it. You will have to put the option on the table and let him weight out the pros and cons. He is drawn to the sexually adventurous and likes sexual change. He will be open to a woman who thinks outside the box both sexually and leisurely and who isn't afraid to enjoy life. She must love music and friends and good food. She must love sex, and view the exploration of play as an art form. Libra is a sign of costume and fashion and therefore they are looking for a partner who can fashion their love just right. You have to keep Libra excited. Long term, he will do better with a more controlling woman, but only if he has real love for her and is willing to give her the patience required in order to exercise her desires.She has to understand that he might be "all over the place" at times, but when he truly is into someone he can calm down and make the commitment. Regardless, she can't bear too much indecision as this is Libra's biggest concern. They don't want to be rushed and they will benefit from a partner who can make up their mind with a lot less effort.
Libra Woman (September 23-October 22): Like Libra male, she too will be a free spirit in need of a man who can keep up with her dreamy demands, whether these demands mean needing more independence or needing more intimacy. It just depends on how she is doing that day or where she is at in her life. If he is patient, friendly and artistic he might win well in her heart. Libra women want to shine, as she will be talented in a variety of areas. She is a creative artist who knows about wine, food, decoration and dressing. She has a certain, untouchable flare about her natural essence, which attracts many suitors--so be careful because you might just become a fan to her radiant spectacle. She is a show-stopper and expects nothing less of her partner in bed. She needs someone who is going to appear like a good arm accessory, someone she can consider her romantic, partner in crime. Libra woman is looking for a best friend and her best bed mate. Again, a more controlling partner is advised as Libra will need a bit of guidance and structure to complete her friendly, fun and free-spirited aura. She would do well with another free-spirit type, though it's not to say for how long. Libra will grow best with someone who gives her that push towards future success. Someone who won't let her get stuck in her vain, self-centered tendencies. She almost needs a partner who will help her see, which choices she should commit and stick to, oppose to staying in the land of uncertainty. '
Gemini Guy (May 21-June 20):  He really needs to meet a person that he admires enough to take care of of him. Gemini guy is very hospitable, he will cook for his love, he will open doors, he will make you feel like a queen if he really loves you. He's very prone to detail so he'll appreciate all the things you do to make yourself look attractive. He needs a women who finds his feminine side appealing, and perhaps in some regards, a woman who is a bit more masculine. Gemini male usually has something metro about him, perhaps he likes to shop, or buy a lot of expensive shoes or jeans, which ever it is, he will most certainly have a lot of ladies in his life. Meaning if you want to date him you are simply going to have to succumb to the amount of female energy in his life--he gets along very well with with the opposite sex. This is often his number one game move, a girl will simply think she is hanging out with a charming, intelligent and attractive male friend, who appears emotionally non-threatening and lighthearted, until they are naked in his bed. Gemini is the friend every female wished she had, as he is very much the twin boy looking for his twin mate. He is not interested in being alone, and will suffer a plethora of dating disaster as a result. Don't take him too seriously too soon, because the moment he knows he has you -- he's gone. You do not want to freak him out with "drama" or intense emotions. TMI surveillance is needed here. He's about the chase and he needs a girl who is going to keep him on his toes. If you show too much devotion too soon, you won't be favored.
Gemini Girl (May 21-June 20): She needs a man who can keep up with her, someone who won't waste her time. She is not the most patient person always, or at all in some cases. She gets it now and needs you to also get it now in order for her to even look your way. If she has her shit together, Gemini will likely be very independent, working hard in a career field where she balances demands of various social commitments, friends and projects. He has to to acknowledge her strengths and be prepared to meet them. She has a natural attraction about her, a goddess-like essence that makes her both appealing and charming to the naked eye of others. She's a phenomenal flirt, and acquires a partner who is confident in himself, who can fulfill her mentally, emotionally and sexually. She bears many faces, some more restless than others, but in the end she is capable of being the face of love to a man she is truly can be devoted to. Though she will pose problems for herself when her intentions don't match her words. She will lose out on opportunities if she gets lots in her chatter, or bitching, without thinking about her honest personal disposition. For Gemini girl it is highly important that they be sincere, and not simply become a victim of the "oh I can't be lonely" syndrome. Gemini is addicted to mental stimulation, and this comes most easily from the opposite sex/sexual attraction, but it is important that Gemini girl refrain from entertaining minute flirtations with the interested prospects merely for ego boost or attention. If she is serious about love she will cut the cord on all the wrong numbers calling her and only seek to find the things they require in one mate.
Sagittarius Woman (November 22-December 20): She needs someone she is truly attracted to in both a physical and mental sense. This is a given with any pairing, but its especially true here as Sagittarius can find it hard to stay stimulated completely by the same person. They have a natural itch to travel and therefore their partner must have a sense of fun to their personality. Sag girl doesn't want to stay in every night and she wouldn't be fully satisfied with a stay at home drip. She is looking for a partner that she feels capable of spending her life with. Someone she can trust and let in emotionally. She has a tendencies to hide her true feelings at the fear of getting hurt. She knows she is capable of doing a lot on her own and does not want to tarnish her positive spirit by letting a man in to destroy this. Often she feels men don't size up to her expectations just as she distracts her self in adventure, socializing and work because she fears failure in any aspect. She will benefit from a partner who has a sense of humor and a zest for life. She needs someone who can mirror her in constant positive validation, which will keep her spirits high and her enjoyment for life soaring. She secretly wants that 'sweep me off my feet' kind of romance, and needs a man who will chase after her and force her to see how worthy of love she truly is. Settling for the Sag girl was never an option, so make your impressions boldly and with style.
 Sagittarius Guy (November 22-December 20): Like all fire signs, he needs a partner who is going to be patient with his charm, his flirtations and his busy work schedule. He likely won't want a girl who can outshine him and he might not even want her for too long. Sag guy is looking for someone who is going to strike him, someone who is going to prompt the chase. He has a  natural desire to climb the chains of success, he desires a sense of royalty in all aspects of his life. Someone with the same amount of seeming confidence and charm is required to share Sag's throne. Someone with class, but also someone he can trust. Sag man will be a vault with his true emotions if he chooses to be. He needs a woman who is perhaps a bit more down to earth in her nature, someone who can listen, care and console and open him up. He has a tendency to be a bit of a hypochondriac and will require an attractive spouse who can listen to his woes and tell him that everything is going to be okay. Adventure is also important, though, you will favor in his desires if you acquire a thirst for life, love and leisure. Domestic qualities are also favored here, for if he truly fits in as being a man on the pursuit of royalty, he won't mind be waited on, cooked for and doted upon. He wants a life full of passion and hopes. When he is sure that he loves you, he will want you to join him on his ever-lasting journey. Yes, this man will still be setting personal goals well into his fifties, and is looking for a partner who will stand by all his anal tendencies through thick, and thicker. Someone who will be equally elated about his recent golf score success or business dealing. Sag guy can't help but be a bit of a bragger, and therefore needs a woman who will share in his successes.
Leo Lady (July 22-August 22): Lions are use to taking control by nature, even if they do so in a meek or coy cub manner. They want to be appreciated for the amazing beings, which they are. Leo loves very passionately. and when they fall in love they fall hard. Leo is happiest when in love and therefore holds it as the lifetime ultimate. Leo needs a partner who will not only let her shine but will satisfy her on ALL levels. If you neglect this woman in any shape or form, she will seek fulfillment from something or someone else. Leo girl needs to feel important, and often Leo will need other people to know just how great they are doing or just how in love they are. Leo is not afraid to show off when in love. Leo expects 100% loyalty. Even if they shine, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to shine too. Leo responds well to a provider-type, someone who can be like a rock to their roll. Leo woman, like all fire signs is highly passionate and expects you to light her flame on the regular. You have to keep the fire burning with Leo, and if the flame distinguishes you have to re-light it. You have to display devotion and maintain the Lion when she gets high maintenance or needs reassurance and ego stroking. She needs a partner who is either very patient, down-to-earth, loyal and secure like a Virgo. Or she needs an Aries type, someone who stems from the same fiery, friendly energy and wants nothing more than to experience life through passion, goals, love and adventure. Aries will give the Leo a sense of security and companionship. The lion will feel understood by the ram, and satisfied. Leo has a hunger for life and love, so you have to keep them well-feed, and be aware of the maintenance required here. She might love you on Monday, but come Thursday, it could very well be a different story. Don't think for a second that she doesn't know what you are up to. This broad is nobody's fool, at least not for too long, so don't try to manipulate her love. 
Leo Man (July 22- August 22): As much as he loves to be in love, Leo will not settle for anything but absolute commitment and the perfect mate to share his life with. Leo man will be the dream partner to a woman that he really loves, but it will take him time to open up fully, with most women. He will be affectionate, sometimes adorably romantic, and emotionally expressive of his feelings. He won't allow his woman to ever question his love because his heroic actions will always speak louder than any words could. He will be by her side and provide for her in any level that is in his means. His ideal type is a highly confident girl with a lot of drive, soul and heart. He wants to be engaged by beauty and inspired by his partner. He needs someone he can laugh with, though he won't do well with an overtly dramatic or emotionally intense partner. This will turn him off and sketch him out. Flaky by nature, Leo needs someone to rise for. Someone they admire too much to ever cancel on. Someone special enough to make his want to get out of the house and meet up with. As stated before, if he puts you before his friends, this is a huge testament to how he feels for you. Leo guy is the good, loyal, lovable friend that the guys come to when they need to talk. Leo has to love you enough that his loyalty to you comes first and foremost because if you start to feel like a neglected, wall fixture in his over-consuming, never-ending, dramatic social derby -- well, you probably are.  
 Aries Man: (March 20-April 19) You will find yourself hard-pressed trying to get under the true skin of this man. He doesn't take commitment lightly, especially emotional commitment. He may never emotionally commit, which is why a women of a softer touch is ideal. Though not too soft as he will string along the vulnerable, two time them, and not give a fuck if they present this as an viable option for romance. He needs an active mind. Someone who can come along and make him feel like he can truly open himself up and show his vulnerable side. He needs to know he can trust you. To Aries man, woman are admired by the beauty of their physical aesthetics, he is like a gardener out to pick the most pretty flower. He bases his decision on sexual and physical appeal and can't always be bothered to take the time to emotionally connect with a woman. Therefore, saying "I love you" and getting married etc. will all take some time for the Aries man. Aries has to do thing at his own pace, and on his own time. They do not response well to pressure and will tell you where to go if you test them on this. Aries key word is 'self', he needs to be good with himself in order to be good for you, and therefore this is the first step towards solving the Aries man puzzle. When he is in a good place with himself he will be more apt to love, but it takes times. It will require a very patient, loyal, loving and emotionally secure woman to pull Aries man out from his shell of personal protection.
Aries Woman (March 20-April 19): The key is to get her interested because if she isn't full heartily invested, she will not catch forever. She will entertain your prospects or use you to fit her own needs and attention issues, but she will not emotionally tie herself to you. It is important here that her interest in you is not based solely on her need for male attention or sexual encounters, but that it is primarily based on the fact that she adores you and has, over time, opened up to you. Aries woman is really good with a Leo because Leo will force Aries to occupy either a back seat or assume an equal position. Aries' need for control either has to be pampered to a high degree OR she needs to meet a man who can put her in her place and force her relax. Aries woman can't help but plan her life away and she needs to live for the moment, but she can't and therefore requires a more 'live for the moment' partner. One who is loyal, dependable and trustworthy, but also someone who has a very rational side. Someone who can talk Aries out of poor situations and stressful feelings. Aries might also require a more emotional, nurturing and overall "sweeter" partner who can show them that anger is not always the best emotional discourse. It is important for Aries to give up the ego and let a man take control, the fear of getting hurt is the biggest hurtle here, but Aries is better suited to find true love in a more vulnerable state.
Taurus Man (April 20-May 20): He may not be Mr. Romantic, but he sure knows how to put the word 'practical' into romance. He is the type of guy who will be a rock for you, an arm to console you when you are down or weak, an ear to listen to you vent and a sensual, yet aggressive and passionate lover in the sheets. He needs a woman he can trust, but also a woman with perhaps a bit of flamboyant spunk, which can bring him out of his shell. Taurus is after the real deal love, build on solid trust, admiration and devotion. They do not forgive easily if burned and will tolerate a lot of nonsense, but when you really push him, this man is like a bull in a china shop. Taurus has a knack for being over-worked and hard-working by nature so he need a partner who is going to be able to comfort him during these busy times and calm him down when he gets too moody as a result of his stress. Taurus man has a lot of pride and expect his woman to have the same. He is not the type who is going to sit around validating your stamp every ten seconds of the day. He wants his woman to be confident, just as she shouldn't expect over the top, fluffy, drawn-out vocations of love. Taurus might show their love for you by buying you a present or taking you for a nice dinner or trip somewhere, but they will likely be predictable in their romantic pursuits. He is Mr. Capable and he needs a feminine, softhearted, charming girl, or an outdoorsy dream boat to help balance his stubborn, yet ruggedly handsome ways. Taurus is the man, and if you are looking for what some would consider to be a "real man" then this is definitely your guy. Rugged around the edges, generally handsome and great at fixing things, you won't question or doubt the testosterone in this earthy man.
Taurus Woman (May 20-April 20): If she wants you, she will move slowly and then suddenly she will own you. It will be hard to get rid of her, especially since there is a part of you that won't truly want to. She's down to heart, dependable and tender-- once you break down her walls. This is what she needs, a partner who isn't going to be afraid to express love and let her feel like she can do the same. This might just start off with her buying you really nice things or paying for little trips away, but later she will tell you just how much she loves you. She will need to feel secure enough to say these words. She needs someone she can trust, who isn't too fleeting or indecisive because she will have an opinion on the matter, and she make the decision. If your not man enough to wear the pants, Taurus girl will take control. If your that guy who fronts like he runs shit but secretly is run by his girlfriend's agenda, then this is the girl for you. This means you will spend more time with her friends, oppose to your own and you will go along with what makes her happy. That's what happens when a man falls for a Taurus woman, he becomes a part of her world out of admiration. She expects this level of devotion in return. Pay attention to facial expressions and body language as she will not tell you when she is upset, at least not all the time. She expects you to love her enough that you just know and if you are not a mind reader in this case, perhaps your feelings aren't as deep rooted as Taurus needs them to be. Though a sign of practicality, the Taurus girl, Mona Lisa smile and all, needs a bit of romance. IF you give her everything she needs, she won't stray, she will stick as long as you provide the glue, preferably the best, most expensive, name-brand glue in the whole wide world.
Capricorn Man (December 21-January 19): He won't be able to open his shell easily, and he might not even want to for a very long time. Capricorn males are either committed at a very early age, or independently single and career driven until much later in life.One thing's for sure, they are looking for a life mate, someone who they ride next to on an airplane for many years to come. Capricorn is a relationship sign, meaning they prefer to have real, solid, long-lasting relationship oppose to meaningless flings and affairs. They have a knack for taste, however, and finding the right person to invest in will be crucial for this man. Capricorn is looking for a woman of class and wouldn't be opposed to dating another career-orientated person. He's a hustler who is attracted to a fellow female hustler. Capricorn is 'the boss' by nature and is directly turned on by people who work hard because they desire someone who also wants the best things in life. Capricorn man would do well with a woman of composed charm, high intellect and a soft, earthy attractive nature, which compliments the structured and guarded Capricorn. It is important that she provide a lightness to his work and stress. He aims to please so when he doesn't, he will need a convincing woman who can make him laugh and let it go. Even though there has to be a level of grounded energy in his female, he might be able to handle a woman who is a bit wilder than him. She still would have to have some reservations about herself and of course, clean up nice. If Capricorn has really fallen for it will especially show if they let you take the lead. He will do whatever you want and put up with a lot if he loves you. He wants to make his woman happy and therefore if that means conducting a daily circus, compliments of his lover, than he just might.
Capricorn Woman (December 21-January 19): She, like Taurus will have a certain about of controlling power in her relationship. She likes to wear the pants and won't mind doing it in any relationship. If she were to fall for a very strong, in control type, she would let him take the front seat. That's not to say she wouldn't provide a lot of support or play an equal part in the decision making process, but it is just to say that she could do well with a man who puts her in her place during these moments of intense control. Her problem is that she will take on too much, so it is important that the relationship is a place of good nature and good humor. Stress in the relationship will only force her to reach out towards more means of working and staying busy. She needs to be challenged and she needs to feel secure, otherwise she will question the truth of your love and won't let you into her shell. Her stubbornness can be tamed, as you will find the more she falls for you, the more she softens and lets go of her need to always be right. Sometimes it's probably best to just let her be right, but this isn't to say that you shouldn't try to show her a different way of looking at things. She has a tendency to see things her way, and as hard as it may be to shift her way of thinking, with the right partner it is possible. The goal is to not let Capricorn girl turn into a fossil, which is easily buried and forgotten. She needs to stay fresh and full of vitality or she won't shine to her true potential. It is key for Capricorn girl not to stay in codependent situations out of fear that it's all she could have. Capricorn if you are worrying about this, please know there is more in store. A lot better awaits you, just don't be so eager to commit or stay committed. Being in love is not an asset it is a blessing.
 Virgo guy (August 23-September 22): He may keep you dangling for as long as you are willing to hang, but make no mistake this guy is looking for perfection in a permanent partner. He is willing to stay single as long as he possibly can, as long as this means he gets the chance to be-friend, sex up and flirt with a variety of beautiful women. Virgo man rarely has barrios when it comes to beauty and will find it in all races, sizes, and ethnicity. It is important here, if you are trying to keep Mr. Virgo long term that you mentally charm him with your witty intellect and your acquired pursuit of knowledge. Virgo needs intellectual stimulation, he thinks, worries and analyzes everything and therefore requires a partner who can take this on. Virgo's are often attracted to those they consider smarter than them because they love the challenge and the thirst of becoming better. Virgo is very self-critical and he always sees room for improvement on everything and in everyone. This need often makes it hard for him to find true love, Virgo's superiority complex will prevent true emotional connections and therefore Virgo guy will need time to feel you out. He will need time to break down his fronts and face the true reality in front of him. Virgo is a man of vision, he lives in his eyes, and is attracted but also vulnerable to what he sees. His thoughts can change upon seeing you, especially if he is turned on. Often he will hide within his own inversions and won't project his true self or feelings, which is why he requires a partner he can trust. He needs a woman who embodies the "mommy role" he craves but also someone who is sensitive to his critical darkness, a side which Virgo is prone to bear. It is necessary for Virgo's love to shed a light through his moody madness and keep him thirsty and excited for her, over time. Keep in mind, loving a Virgo guy might mean that you start to change everything about yourself  in order to suit his needs, and yet he still isn't giving you what you want. If this is the case, you need to move on because Virgo will only give you their all if they know they can sincerely trust that you are 'the absolute' for them.
Virgo Female (August 23-September 22): She'll have some skeletons in her closet because she isn't afraid to take chances. She sort of likes the bad boys, or isn't at least isn't unwilling to take them on. Love is very important to her. She's an intelligent, private eye type who wants to find all the clues to solve the mystery on how to meet Mr. Right (Mr. Perfect). She will coyly seek, and flirt and may come off awkward at times. There is an undeniable shy side to this sign. She is seeking, yes, but she is hard to please. She like Virgo male would like to seek practical perfection in her ideal mate. This is not to say she won't string you along to suit her immediate needs, but it is to say that she is hard to impress for the long haul. She'll be distracted by things she can't control and will try harder to fulfill this need to control when things can't be easily controlled. She requires a partner who provides her with stability, physical comfort, trust, humor and friendship. She is looking for someone she can build a house with, but proudly. She knows she is pursued but if she is true to herself she will be caution and reserved until she really feels the time is right and the person meets her capacities. Otherwise she will obsess about male attention and bang random guys, until someone worth the change in lifestyle arrives. When it does, she will be the ideal mate. Down to earth, providing, loyal and practical. There is a side to her that needs to be needed, and she works hard to achieve these needs. She needs a partner who respects this and admire the gifts of this inquisitive and methodical woman.
Scorpio Guy (October 23-November 21): He is probably depicted in a lot of astrological literature as the darkest and most dangerous man, but is "danger" in this case truly dangerous or is it just dangerously sexy? Yes, the Scorpio attraction can sting you. Take Ryan Gosling for example, as I am sure most woman would 'take him' gladly, but have you ever seen him in an interview? Dude is a total Scorpio. He answers most questions with as few words as possible. He stings you with sexy stares and communicates so much through his facial expressions, especially in his smile and eyes. Scorpio dude will have a natural sex appeal that is hard to question or de-tangle from emotionally, but he can defiantly have sex and not feel anything emotional about it the next day. If you are consistently doing him, you should note that the sexual affection he shares with you is a direct expression and reflection of how he feels for you. His lady has to know he is not the typical "I love you so much, babe" type and embrace his ability to show his love through his body. He is looking for a woman who he trust, and trust me, the guard will take some time to come down, even if he really likes you. Security in a partner is key, Scorpio will sniff you out for as long as they need too, in order to know for certain that they really love you. A lot of Scorpio men seek professional dating help because they don't know how to communicate. Even more so it is because Scorpio guy doesn't know how to trust properly or at all, and this indirectly scares people from opening up to him. He needs a women who isn't afraid to bring Scorpio dude out of his dungeon. He needs a woman who isn't afraid to strike first, and show him her vulnerable side, thus allowing him to see it is okay to open up to someone else.
 Scorpio Girl (October 23-November 21):: This woman expects to have you and expects for you to be hers forever-- or for however long she desires to have you. It is very hard to un-attach yourself from a Scorpio woman in love because even if you aren't entirely good for her, she has the ability to convince herself that you are, even if you truly aren't. Her heart is powerful and rules all, but only if she lets it and in some cases, she won't let anyone in. She needs a partner she can trust, because otherwise she will sit around wasting time fighting through her own trust issues, which will inadvertently keep her from connecting with her lover. She needs a mentally stimulating partner who she can confide in. Someone she can tell her private emotions to and not just someone she enjoys 'helping or 'enabling'. If she feels comfortable enough around this person, then this is a good signs. Scorpio woman will read you a mile away, and it is very easy for her to push you away instantly, or use you in a twisted, Scorpio girl affair, but you won't mean scrap to her. She needs a man who will be patient with her rigid ways. She will push you away by nature, or string you along casually unless you pose a challenge to her. You have to appear epic, confident and emotionally sound to truly snag this women. She is used to be independently capable in her life and will do well with a man who has a lot of throw down. A man who isn't afraid to wear the pants OR a man who will give up control to her. As stated before it's not that Scorpio girl is a total control freak, it is only that she doesn't trust others enough to do it right. She needs someone she can rely on and someone she can feel secure enough to let her guard down--someone who can share in her control. She needs to be with someone who doesn't give her excuses (through their own folly) that is it alright to exercise her jealousy/insecurity issues.
Cancer Guy (June 21-July 22): He's hard to read all the time because his moods are so complicated and fleeting, but make no mistake about it-- he is a man who wants real love. Love is the barometer to his moods. This guy is a true relationship sign at the core and longs to settle down with the right person. Sometimes the guy is just straight up weird, so particularity he's not after the vanilla, boring, average Jane type. A little excitement would be good here-- he needs a girl who can spark his interest and hold a delightful memory in his mind. He needs a girl that he knows he can form the perfect balance of domesticity with. A women with both heart, mind and soul, He also needs someone he can laugh with, share inside jokes with, stay in and watch movies with. He's a simple man at heart, but he needs to be on the same page as his lover in order to build a sensuous, true, long-lasting committed union. Cancer is the sign of protection and maternal energy, this is why the Cancer guy is so much happier when in relationship. He needs to have something to love, protect and connect with. He needs a women who is out for the same type of long-term loyalty that he is. Someone who he can share his life with, easily and without drama, effort or doubt. Cancer guy has to be careful because he wants love so badly, he has a tendency to fall in loves easily and will stick around cowardly for too long, desperatly trying to work on it. Cancer guy has to think long and hard about what it is that they really want from a partner. They have strive to find this through a process of elimination and NOT through a process of failed relationships. You will meet a lot of women, but not all of them are worth dating and devoting yourself to.
Cancer Girl (June 21-July 22): She is looking for the real deal. Romance, fairy tale love and matrimonial bliss. It is a playful theory that all water signs girls grew up on the Disney dream of being woken by a kiss from their prince. She is the ideal of perfection, either the girl next type, or the girl guys dream about when they envision the perfect girlfriend. Regardless, there are layers to this lady. She wants someone she can build a home with, but more importantly someone she can comfort, take care of and adore. she is a mommy type by nature, and nurturer you-- she will. She is sensitive, so she requires a man who finds this endearing by matching it or by provides a nice balance by assuming an opposite position. Cancer woman is full of vitality and wants to enjoy life, she wants to have experiences and weave memories with a life mate she can count on. she is looking for someone she feels is ideal to accompany her on her life journey. She will need someone she can laugh with, stay in with, watch movies with and cook amazing meals with. She needs someone who also believes that personal dreams do come true. She has a shy side, which she will need you to entertain and break down a bit over time. Though she is a true comedian at heart, and if you get the best of her, there shouldn't be a dull moment. A mother by nature, she needs to protect the people she loves, but she needs to ensure that he is worth protecting. Sometimes she can't help herself and will try to help someone who can't be helped. She will try to protect lovers who will never accept her protection. She may fight forever to get these people to see the value of her guidance,  but they never will. She needs a partner who has a lot of heart and empathy. Someone who will not only benefit from her graces but also give back to her in the most reciprocal and sentimental way. She truly is a woman of sentimental value and needs a homely partner who wants to build a life together, a life fraught with meaning.
Pisces Girl (February 19-March 20): She's that temptress, goddess girl who dreams big and brightly about her ideal image of love. In real life, however, she ends up (at some point) obsessing about dirt bags. Sometimes it seems like Pisces can be so desperate for love that she isn't able to differentiate from the bad, the good and the ugly. She needs to try to open her heart to a man who is going be an anchor to her ever-flowing emotions, altruism, and eccentricities. She needs to find solid ground, instead of opening her heart to the guy who won't properly validate it.  Generally, Pisces is pretty sweet and kind, even if they hide this with wit and sass, most fish are compassionate about others, which is why they have to be careful not to get involved with a partner who simply wants to take advantage of them. Pisces girl needs to try to hide her heart from advantageous activity, which could occur. Pisces is soft at the root and therefore requires a man with a harder shell, someone who can save her from her emotional turmoil. What she needs is someone who loves her for exactly who she is. People change gradually over time and through serious work, but there are certain, endearing Pisces' girl traits that are just not going away. The man that comes to truly love her will embrace these quirks and make them his own, he will love her for them and provide a sense of completion in the fish girl's heart. This is important as this girl will be restless, sad and incomplete without consistent love. She needs someone to hold her hands and tell her everything is going to be alright. Or better yet, put a beer in her, grab her by the waist and tell her she looks great.
Pisces Guy (February 19-March 20):: He's not always the most easy to trust because his charm is just so full-proof, I mean it won you over, didn't it? But his charm will win over many times until he encounters his soul honey. This is another man who shouldn't or likely won't think about solid, real commitment until much later in life. He's usually very charming and good at pretending to be confident or quirky enough that girls sleep with him. He's a fan of sex, and enjoys having it regularly. Pisces have addictive personalities and usually relate these addictions to sexual behavior. Many women will find that they have a Pisces in their past because sexual acts are a way of fulfilling Pisces' romantic longings. They have the ability to sweep  girls off their feet and make them think things might really go somewhere. They will say the sweetest things and then BAM the morning comes, the mood of the fish has changed, and they are on to the next engagement. Or they are suddenly impossible to find, logged back into their dream world. Pisces guy needs to slow it down and really think about what he needs from a partner without losing his sense of self. He also needs to ensure that he genuinely is in a position to be there for someone else. This is the kind of guy who has a hard time providing, even if he has a great job as a doctor or a lawyer, he might have alimony he has to pay his ex's wives, or they might just be shit with money in general. It is important that Pisces feels confident with himself and has true, lasting, feelings, which don't alter, in order to pick the right mate. Pisces guy should not let his fear of being alone stand in the way of him picking the right person. Pisces is the last man in the zodiac and therefore it might take him a few times around the track in order for him to find his love. Regardless, he will likely hide behind the shadow of several, appealing and providing women until he does.
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Friday, October 7, 2011

The Fall Out Blog.



People associate seasons with moods, lifestyles and behavior. The fall always represents a element of change, a fresh start, a sounding for a new year to come. It also marks the end of what was in the present year. As the leaves change colors and pumpkins emerge upon door steps (except NOT in Australia --so weird) think about the changes, which are absolutely necessary in your life.  See if you are at a point in your life where you are capable of making them a reality.This is the fall advisory blog.  What should I keep in my life?What should I recycle and what should I throw away? My pack rat Taurus Aunt Judy Sandhu was recently on a TV show called Consumed, and her premier last week could not have aired at a more perfect time. Let's get ready for the seasonal closet clean! You can watch my Aunt's show, starring her two adorable daughters Jessica and Mackayla here: http://www.hgtv.ca/consumed/episodes.aspx?sectionid=454&categoryid=4709762978744636039&postid=233832
What Should you Keep? What Should you Get Rid of? What Should You Renovate? 
 AQUARIUS ~January 20-February 19~
 
What You Could Get Rid Of: Try to find an equilibrium between what you want and what the people in your life want from you. Sometimes you get caught up, either in another person or in yourself. You need to remember that there is someone in your life who feels emotionally rebuffed by you. Some people need your optimism, but it is understandable if you feel like you don't have any to give at the moment. Being forced to be there for people when you can't will only bring out the wrath of Aquarius. Give up your mean streak or at times "diva nature."You are friendly but when crossed you can be quite vicious with the tongue and loose with the gossip. Try to make a commitment to something this fall, even if it is really small.You might have been walking in circles lately, but you know you thrive best under the heat of new light, preferably really bright ones.What you Should Keep: Keep your worldliness, your undying strength and ability to see the beauty in life. You seek adventure and want to share your love and sense of vitality with the world, but you also want diversity. Keep your thirst for something unique as this sets you apart from the rest in a positive way. Keep your intuition because even if you reject it at times, your gut has rarely lied to you. Your mind is powerful, intelligent and one of a kind. Don't let the powers of your mentality to lead you astray.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Renovate your emotions towards the things in life, which you often let ride. If something upsets you or doesn't suit you, speak on it. In Aquarius's case they've likely recycled their ex-lovers. "I did her but now my buddy is dating her." Aquarius might be cool with this, but they will always remember that they were there first. Aquarius "acts cool" but there is a lot of suppressed emotions, which favor their personal desires and egos -- just because they don't say it, doesn't mean they aren't thinking it.
TAURUS~May 20-April 20~
What You Could Get Rid of: Your stubborn streak. Your fucked up, "I'm a bitch/asshole" facial expressions that intimate (only) people who don't know you. Sometimes you look like a bully and when you want to pick on someone you know you can. Don't be a brat on the school yard. It's not to say that your really a bitch or an asshole but that your facial expressions, physicality and initial standpoint often mislead people to think this way. Your fixation on buying shit and inherent burning material greed. Your overbearing collection of shoes or wallets, basic tees, dresses, EVERYTHING. Your addiction to toys, gadgets, cash or shoes, yeah we already mentioned shoes, but with reason. Your possessive and jealous nature, which lies at the core of your inner trust. An inner trust, which you share with no one. Your inability to express yourself with vocations, which others are moved by.  Get more complicated with your feelings. Taurus is loving and real, but sometimes is expressively inept and a little too much to the point.What You Should Keep: Your tender heart. Your ability to be the best, take control and get shit done. Your out-of-this-world-fucking-amazing-I-could-be-president-of -this-joint-work-ethic. Your loyalty and the honor that you bestow daily to those who are closest to you. Your ability to function and stay grounded. Your strength. Your ability to be classy, timeless and comforting. Your good sense of home and your value for loyal friendships and partnerships.
What You Should Renovate or Recycle: It was mentioned earlier that my Aunt was a Taurus, and yeah, Taurus you should recycle all that shit you don't wear/need in your closet. This may even include stuff with the tags still on it. Give it to charity, you don't really need it, you just want it, want it, and want it. Also recycle your past, if you're a bull holding onto garbage out of pure insecurity, toss it, you'll only find better when you let go of what is holding you down. Those who have done so are likely stable and content with the right partner. If you are still referring to him/her like you would when you were together, well, you are not over it.

                         CAPRICORN~December 21-January 19~
What You Should Get Rid Of: Your rigid ways of working too hard, following rules and doing right by others all the time. It's okay to make a mistake, it is even better to take responsibility for these mistakes. You're inability to branch out of what makes you feel comfortable and your need to surround yourself in areas that you can control. As stated before, Capricorn is likely "the boss" of whatever they do because they thrive in a position of power. Earth signs are often the work horses of the zodiac. Get rid of your inability to work well with other controlling forces. Try to focus on your emotions, which often get hidden in your vigor and work order. Not everyone is going to like everything you do or give you the validating response, which you desire and you have to accept this.What You should Keep: Your ability to be classy and look good, calm and happy in emotionally high-strung situations. Your good mood when you keep it and how it infectiously wears off on others. your ability to be a rock for anyone who you truly value in your life. The effortless matter in which you bend over backwards to please the ones you love, and the loyalty, which you are able to provided these fortunate people with. Keep your grounded sense and think about what the future could hold for you. Where do you want to go? Keep your confidence that you can go places and do big things, don't get stuck because you don't see any room to move upwards. Keep these ideals in mind this fall as it is very possible for this sign to stay on the right track and surround themselves with the right people.
What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Your past. What is it that you really want to re-use? Or make better? Capricorn needs to eradicate whatever is holding them back from turning over a new leaf and if they have turned over a new leaf, are they free of the ghosts of the past? Are they sure? Capricorn needs to take time for the self to make sure they are on the right path with their current relationships because once they set their designs on someone it will take a long time for them to look elsewhere or move on to someone else.
 
LEO~July 22-August 22~
What You Should Get Rid Of : Your inability to take an insult or responsibility for any wrong doing, which you may have done. You are not always right or better no matter how much you'd like to think you are, or no matter how much you still think you are now. Being the best doesn't require making everyone else feel like they are the worst. Get rid of the goose hunt. You have eggs. Love those eggs, don't go on eggs hunts, when you already have eggs. Leo you know exactly what I mean. Sometimes you look for a little temptation from other suitors even if you are already engaged. Try not to do this so much. You've still got it going on, but you have to think about the people you love and how they perceive your constant need for attention. Let this itch be, and shower yourself in the people who pet you on a daily basis.What You Should Keep: Your passion and drive and desire for whatever/whoever you love. This looks so good on you. Leo wears love and pride and passion so well, and when they do a good job and are in love (whether this be with another person or just themselves) they have the ability to create the best home environment. They have the natural ability to built a temple for a beautiful relationship. Keep your relationship with yourself. Keep pursuing your personal goals. Leo was born to be great and born to lead, so it is up to you to lead your own dreams. You truly do have to do this. Keep your sensibility because even if you get caught up in drama, sometimes, your ability to be sensible is your best trait, and it looks amazing on you in combat with friends/lovers. You have the ability to have great tact and courage and when you use it well, no one can beat you. You can play a flawless social game, just make sure you have a set agenda for yourself or it will start to eat at you in a very negative way. Leo loves the light and the excitement so they have a tendency to get strung out and depressed. Don't kick yourself in the paw. Keep prowling.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: The swag you bought with the EX girl/guy, you know their favorite sports team tees or t-shirts, their music, whatever you transformed yourself into loving just because you were in love. You know the shit you took but weren't real about, that stuff, recycle that.
LIBRA~September 23-October 22~
What You Should Get Rid Of: Your inability to make a strong decision and know what the fuck it is that you want. Your wishy-washy nature. Your tendencies to get caught up in others and playful things and neglect your emotional spirit. Your sometimes exceedingly selfish or pampered tendencies and or hang-ups, which others don't understand. Your fleeting nature, but only if its been getting you into trouble. Your fear of ruffling feather--sometimes you want to say things, sometimes you want to take the lead and sometimes you have real concerns or feelings, but you do nothing about them. Nobody is a mind reader and nothing is going to change unless you vocalize your true concerns. Letting things go and being breezy about these things is beneficial, but at times it will hold Libra back. Libra won't make any progress if they stay in their comfort zones. The shallow end is sweet, but it is time to kick it in the deep end, you know you can keep up. Don't let the overbearing and powerful/overtly emotional personalities of others prevent you from doing this.What You Should Keep: Your charm. Your ability to make other people laugh and smile and feel special. Your style and impeccable ability to pull off shit that others can't. You do this so well. Your naturally kind disposition and fun spirit. Your ability to be the best middle man, wingman, any kind of man, Libra could do it all if in the right mood. The fact that see both sides to every story and rarely take a side or "get in the middle" of other people's shit. Your outlook on life and your desire to live without drama. Your love for food and art and music, which you find engaging and desirable.What You Should Renovate or Recycle:Your mind. You might think that being a Libra makes you well balance, when in reality, it means you will struggle to find balance. Start to weight out your concerns and deal-breakers. Don't string things along, which you know you can't give anything to. Sometimes Libra will take, especially from those who are willing to give, but they know they aren't genuinely emotionally invested. They know they are merely out for play and pleasure but they expect you to know this. Don't be greedy Libra, you know you are capable of making assumptions that others aren't always aware of.
                   SCORPIO~October 23-November 21~
What You Should Get Rid Of: Your fury. The thoughts you have sometimes that are so dark, you know, the ones you never really share, yeah, you should ignore those thoughts. Don't pay them any mind. You should ignore the wicked in you and your sometimes, unwanted tendency to take your stresses out on others. You, at times can be a baby when people don't give you what you want or see things your way. Things are not always the way you see it, but how you do see it will automatically fix your standpoint towards something or someone. A Scorpio standpoint is one that is very hard to change. You need to try and trust people a lot more. Sometimes the way you chose to see a situation, and your inability to alter in perception is the sole thing, which keeps you in a bad spot. You might be assuming the worst when you shouldn't be.What You Should Keep: Your goodness. Don't let people ever tell you that Scorpio is a bad, bitchy or wicked sign. Yes, it is in all of you, as it is in everyone, but Scorpio has the ability to be the most amazing person in your life if they want to be. Scorpio doesn't love easily or even know to say the words properly so if they are certain that they do love you, expect great things. Except them to show and display this love through gesture and action oppose to verbal expression. They can be so giving and empathic, the world's best listener, partner in crime and life-long ally. Don't underestimate the wily, talented, controlling and hard-working ways of the intelligent Scorpio. Scorpio needs patients, acceptances and forgiveness. They need a key. Give Scorpio a key so they can come in on their own time, and when they do arrive, however many years later (jokes) it will be blissful.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Old parts. Your sexual style. Stop faking orgasms and sexual desires when you don't have them. Stop sleeping with people who don't satisfy you in bed or match your sexual mastery.
                        GEMINI~May 21-June 20~
What You Should Get Rid Of: Get rid of the bitch face. Your other face is so much more attractive, pretty, likable and friendly. Nobody needs to see the other side. It's time to be wily in a constructive way. No manipulation. No mind games. No wooing people into your web of lies, shit and charm. Don't always do what is best for you. Do for the other as well. Get rid of your attitude that everything has to be balling and pimp and cool and something to brag about, you're only a big deal if you do so with modesty, confidence and most importantly, class. Gemini, stay classy. You have the ability to come off as something, which almost seems too perfect or too good to be true, so don't give anyone a reason to question your good hospitality, just be about it and it will come naturally on its own.What You Should Keep: Your mind, but keep it focused on how to be happy, look good and enjoy your life. This includes work. Doing what you love is so important right now. So if you love your job keep it but if you don't, move on because being able to doing something fast and well with your eyes closed never pleased a Gem. You are a highly visual, mentally active sign, you need to see and merchandise and visually connect with the details of people and intricacy. You need to be able to look into windows and see things that inspire you. Keep your inspiration in conjunction with your good intentions and intelligence and you'll be on the right path.What You Should Renovate or Recycle:Anything in your closet that has fur on it or is animal print. Renovate your hostility towards the people who have burned you in the past. Is it not possible that people change? Don't hate on people because they challenged you or didn't give you what you wanted, try to see the good in everyone, even those you consider enemies.
              SAGITTARIUS~November 22-December 20~
What You Could Get Rid Of: Your rigidness. Sometimes it is alright to listen to someone and compromise your own position to a fair degree. You have to let some of your anal hang-ups go. You might think that other people find them endearing by now, but honestly, they don't. Calm down and take a moment to be with yourself and figure out what you want. You can be really selfish sometimes, don't think this goes unnoticed. People are aware that you are out for yourself and will do what you need to get, but most importantly, people are aware of the charm, which you use to get it. They are starting to see right through it. You can charm, but like a unstable structure, there is nothing behind this charm to support it from collapsing. Your tactics become hollow,  and people start to see through them and think that they are fake.What You Should Keep: You desire to have a good time and enjoy life. Your ability to have a relationship with yourself that nobody else knows about. Your ability to protect yourself from harm, and act as guiding light to others. Your passion for the world and your personal goals for adventure and travel, which never cease and never should.Your desire for things that you know are explicitly you, and your negligence to change these capacities in order to fit the social norms. This could be a personalized sense of style (some might view it as clashing or tacky, you think it's epic) a work ethic or a unique way of socializing with others.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: All those ugly shoes and dress shirts that you bought on SALE. Stay away from sales, you sales whore. Renovate your philosophy that you'd rather be engaged with others/dating people simply because you are bored. Not all adventures can be forced, no matter how much you are itching for something new and fulfilling, sometimes the notch on the belt isn't worth it.
                        PISCES~February 19-March 20~
What You should Get Rid Of: Your addictions. However adorable, signature and quirky they may be, for some of you, it is time to stop chasing the dragon. Your addictions hold you back from your utilizing your strengths and discovering your own ambition. Stop traveling in circles. "We're done", you take a step forward, "I want you back", you start to swim backwards. In order to move forward, in a true fashion, Pisces has to stop moving in the visual direction of their zodiac symbol, which is in a constant circle. Get rid of any jealous, manipulative or cruel-minded thoughts. You wear both sarcasm, sass and kindness well, but cruelty should not be in the mix. Even if you have been reverting to this lately. Stop.What You Should Keep: Your heart and compassion--do not reject these qualities about yourself, embrace them and feel confident about them. Your ability to listen and empathize well with others. The ability to save and counsel someone else (but often not yourself --get rid of this too) and drop everything for the people you admire. Your sense of personal style. Your quirks. Your feet and flexibility, in terms of having a good time, working hard and being a good lover.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Start recycling in general. For some of you that means cleaning out the pop cans and left over Mr. Noodles containers. Renovate your attitude, let the past die, and look forward to a happier future where you actually learn from your mistakes and discover the desire to utilize your true potential.
 
VIRGO~August 22-September 23~
What You Should Get Rid Of: Your bitchy, critical attitude that comes out sometimes. Your inability to see beyond your own superiority. A complex, which makes it difficult for you to handle any form of criticism directed at your self. Get rid of this stubborn mentality towards other and realize that not all people think, feel or operate on the same calculated schedule as you. Some people wear color and go jogging IN THE MORNING, just because you don't, it doesn't give you the right to be so hateful.
What You Should Keep: Your judgment because even though it is a downfall, your ability to read people and assess situations like a CSI agent makes you extremely interesting to talk to you. Keep your mind, it is insightful and exploratory and always hungry for new information-- remember the girl/guy you end up with, no matter how hot, will have to compliment you mentality. Keep with the faith that you need to date someone who is on your mental page and who is going to understand how to stimulate you both mentally and sexually. Keep your hard-working ethic and ability to be a paper weight for someone you care about. Keep your sense of undying morality, no matter how deviant people can be there is always an inherent sense of 'goodness' in all of them. Likely as there is a legit reason for their fury. Virgo is instantly attracted to other elements of goodness and virtue, but being both the virgin and the vixen, Virgo is also very much attracted to whatever they perceive as "bad." Though they probably won't refer to to their actions with this word. What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Virgo are often organized neat freaks, so they likely are doing pretty well on the recycle front. Renovate your self-esteem. Keep with that part that fully believes and ignore the critical voice.Listen to some of the DB shit that come of your mouth when you are drugs. Drinking doesn't give your the right to suddenly brag about yourself in the defense of other dudes/chics, which you falsely think you are better than.
                              CANCER~June 21-July 22~
What You Should Get Rid Of: You should get rid of your whiny attitude if you have one. Not everything in life is "woe is me", not every mood you feel has to be dictated by the weather. Try to see things through a fuller light, one where you can actually visualize your self somewhat happy. Idealize your goals --or in most Cancer cases-- get some goals and stick to a plan of making them a reality. Get rid of the crabby face you often bear. Stop standing in cynical corners with people you "feel comfortable around", branch out, bring out that fun-loving, good Cancer humor and let the good times roll through jokes and enjoyment. Take time to do one non-routine thing a day. Get out of the house. Get off the couch. Get out of bed. Turn off the computer, video game, movie, whatever. Find something social and productive to be doing. You'll thrive best in these situations and scenarios. Focus on your artistic and creative talents. You have all of these, but they should not go neglected.What You Should Keep: Your good humor. Your natural ability to be "calm and cool" -- keep with this, don't revert back and forth between this motif and the crabby one. Your sense of personal style, and that's not just to say how you dress, but even simply in the elements of your daily decorum, your home, your ability to make something out nothing with massive creativity. Your ability to plan something epic and unforgettable when you desire to. Your natural empathy and naturally protective heart. Your ability to care for others, even when you shouldn't (though don't let those same people take advantage of this.)What You Should Renovate Recycle: Cancer needs to renovate their heart. If they have lost their warmth due to pain, they have to know that love is still in them. Cancer was born to protect and care for others. They are nurturers by nature, and therefore will never truly be happy unless there is something in their life to be considerate of. The fear of getting hurt again, will only destroy cancer if they let it. Crack the Cancer shell as much as you possibly can this fall and continue to get out there.

 ARIES~March 20-April 19~
What You Should Get Rid Of: You should get rid of your competition. In that you shouldn't have any and you should stop competing with yourself.  If you can't beat it, fuck it, you know it's only going to kill you until you get your way. If you can't let it be, that you'll have to accept defeat. Rid yourself of the "I have to win at all cost" attitude because this place we call earth is a scary dwelling, you have to watch your every step in the marshes, and sometimes you may have to step in really muddy trenches or wait your turn, or take a back seat--welcome aboard the train of life! A concept, which can be very hard for Aries to grasp. Keep grabbing Aries, before the get is ready to give and you will continue to be burned by this greedy nature, so keep giving. You don't always have to be the Eve going in for the apple bite. You want what you want but you need to learn to wait for it to happen, without your aggressive and pushy nature.What You Should Keep: Your talent, your drive and your inner creativity. You have something unique about you, which is destine to shine through in the end so hold on to this notion and let your confidence exude naturally from within you. Keep your good faith and your intelligent, philosophical nature, which makes you so active in conversations and likable from first encounter. Keep networking. Keep a calm head, nobody likes it when you get down or angry, so if you feel you are in a ram rut take the time to untangle those knots first, within yourself before another person becomes victim of it. Truth of the matter is, they probably love you enough to take the heat anyway, which is why you should always keep the people in your life who love you, very close.What You Should Renovate or Recycle: Your ego. You don't really need thaaat much and its starting to get in the way of your real happiness. Don't be macho, be melting in love. Buy that ring. Have those kids. Make that commitment, do something brave, use the fall time and upcoming new year to make changes with your heart. Your head is powerful but sometimes it gets in the way of the things you really desire and need from life. When it comes to the person that you love, use your head a bit less and your heart a lot more.

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Thursday, September 15, 2011

You're Gonna Wish You Never Had Met Me: Is Love the New Hate?

It is likely that many, if not most of you, have that one ever-hanging skeleton in your closet that almost never seems to go away. You may have tried to literally break the bones of this structured ghost , but yet their irritating memory doesn't seem to fade. This is the person you wish you never met. Perhaps someone who hurt you in a short span of time or possibly someone you've truly loved for a long time. This is the person who you feel you "could have had it all" with, but yet there was always something or someone in the way. Often or not, we are addicted to the person who doesn't give up the validation we desire or deserve. The rejection, the drama and the thrill of the monkey chase becomes an obsession of its own: how am I going to get you? 
It is a newly entertained speculation that hate is the new love. Have you ever found yourself completely fixated on someone who was never going to give you what you wanted? Perhaps even someone who wasn't even truly worth caring for? In your mind you created this surreal connection, which you felt couldn't be topped by another human being? Only to find it's just that you won't let it. You won't let the memory die because you feel like you'll never be heard -- and you may never be heard. It depends who are dealing with. Read the horoscopes below to see how your man/woman might deal with you astrologically. KEEP IN MIND THAT THE RELATIONSHIPS YOU SEEK TO ENGAGE IN, INDIRECTLY REFLECT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.

 For example, your really confident and outgoing friend, who is in the "perfect relationship" is not lowering her personally high standards for anyone. He/she knows what they deserve and are not settling for less. If you find yourself going after the guy/girl who doesn't give you a inch it is likely because you don't value yourself enough.  Why else would you endure crap? If you chose to, this will make it easy for that said person to take advantage of your personal feelings. This comes into play in friendships too. Sometimes we seek certain friends because we can control them, because they will worship us and most importantly because they fill a void, which we lack within ourselves. Figure out what's most important in order for you to actually self-develop into the person you want to be, apart from anyone else.
Figure out what position you take and what you can an cannot handle. For example, not everyone was meant to play the field, but yes, some can. There are people who simply bring out the worst in others. If you find yourself acting out of character or doing things, which are beneath you, ask yourself how healthy or beneficial is this person is in your life? There will always be that one person, whether it is an ex, a passionate crush or a person who never gave you the time of day, and no matter how exciting these feelings may be, at one point you will find yourself wishing that you had never met this person to begin with! Why? Because no matter how great they were for how long, they were never truly a benefit to your life nor were they capable of seeing the best in you. Yet they still managed to get the best of you, right? Or they left you with a pile of crap that you're not prepared to deal with. The person who does the hurting is the person with the most power, initially, but don't be a victim of unrequited love, take it back. How do you achieve this? Time. Time is a bitch, but she's the only thing true in this world you can count on. When disaster strikes, one can be assured knowing that in a matter of time, destruction will repair, no matter how many fragments or bruises or scars or sad video documentations are left to keep reminding you. There is a letter of love through all the pain, you just have to let it find you, don't go looking for it. You will never find it this way.  You might even touch it, you might know it already, but you'll feel the key turn in the lock when you BELIEVE the true rhetoric of your own bullshit. This is the part that takes time. If you pretend for a second that you are another person, someone else, other than you, than you likely have the BEST, most profound, intelligent advice to give yourself, but you can't take it. At least not right now, and there is nothing wrong with that. As long as you are aware of your own trek and the distance you still have to make up for.
As this blog likes to stress, Fall is a relationship month, but it is also a time for the self to seek a sense of personal appeasement. HOROSCOPE TIME:
AQUARIUS: (January 20-February 19): You might just be the person that plenty of people wish they had never met. Go figure. You are a natural born charmer who can woo the best of them. Even so, you are the most likely, out of any sign to stay in good company with your past lovers. Aquarius exercises the element of friendliness to the best degree. If there was something attractive, which they saw in you initially, they likely still see it or will see it again. Aquarius is multi-faceted and will be attracted and un-attracted to certain people for various reasons, but on the whole front they want to be as cordial as possible. This is usually the case if AQ have the ability to play the field and jerk various people around without any capacity for consequence. AQAQ can become an entirely different, grounded and emotionally invested person who will not surrender the best interest of their partner. If AQ got away from you, it might be hard to get over, they are everywhere, attractive, charming and don't give a fuck (like seriously why are they so un-phased by you right?) Aquarius is in their own unique world and not likely to succumb to your needs for validation. They are going to have fun, without or without your sulking face lingering in the corner. If you do something wrong or display something, which could be perceived as deal breaker, they known almost automatically that they won't date you. This isn't to say that they won't fuck you or spend time with you, but let it be know, AQ is the master of the one night stand.  They are only committed sexually if they are truly mentally attracted and will know by your actions, whether or not you are a suitable partner. This is why they are very capable of having a one nighter or a fling, they are wise enough to know that once is enough. If they do come back for more, they will only complicate things emotionally, and if AQ isn't into you, they want play and passion, but they don't want enemies. Don't read into their charming ways, they can't always help them, and don't worry, in time you likely won't feel the wrath of AQ, but you'll have to get over it first because sometimes AQ is easily loathed from an EX perspective because they usually move on fairly quickly, and usually to better.
TAURUS (May 20-April 20): You won't forget this person if there is one and you are likely still in their life to some degree. The bull often takes possession of the heart (of you) in relationships and they don't like to give back anything for free. They will take it all if they can. You likely have some kind of weird hold on your EX. Either this, or you can easily revert back to your own personal feelings about the relationship. Taurus is very stubborn in their emotions and while they might forgive, they don't forget. They will bestow kindness upon you or fuck off completely and they make it very clear, publicly that they are not happy to see you.
If Taurus feels someone got away, they won't go away, if they experienced real feelings with someone, Taurus can distract, but they can't initially let go. If Taurus is the one who got away from you, there might be a lot of "shit, they are so fucking great", and yeah, they probably are. Taurus people are phenomenal and exceedingly loyal, grounded and dependable people to have in your life, but their needs are simple and extravagant at the same time, if you don't meet them, they won't give you the run around. Try as you might to get over the bull, if they are running circles in your brain, it is likely because they are not coming back. Unless, they loved you, if they loved you, it's only a matter of time until the question of reconciliation presents itself. The bull will just need time to get their affairs in order. Earlier I said Taurus doesn't go away, and this is especially true if they think they love you. They will fuck you and be your best friend, until finally you see, it was fucking meant to be!
PISCES (February 19-March 20): You won't stop thinking or daydreaming about this person, let alone chatting away about them. Sometimes it feels to anyone who listens with a willing ear. You secretly crave resolution and harmony with everyone so it kills you when people retreat in time and inner solace. You might go a little psycho when you do have it bad for someone, but your intentions are rarely in the wrong place. You have a feisty side, so Pisces girl is especially likely to get fresh if someone is infringing upon her territory. They also have a hard time letting things go because Pisces is very likely to blame them self for whatever went astray. They are also more prone to experience their own abuse through others and put up with a lot of unholy circumstances. It almost has to happen to someone else (by the same person) in order for them to see how shitty someone is.
If Pisces is the one that got away, I'm sorry. They don't like to make enemies with anyone, if they can help it. Even though, there will always be a few, distinct personality types that Pisces will never truly mix with. This being said, Pisces will string you along, play mind games and still entertain you in a sexual nature. Pisces has a highly addictive personality and sex is usually one of them. If you had good sex with a Pisces, they will want to come back for more. Even if they know you are no good or not good enough. They also want attention from the opposite sex -- and go back and forth a lot when they are lonely. Meaning they will weigh the pros and cons and consider you again if they are in a desperate position. It is not rare for a Pisces to work it out with someone from the past when they feel ready. There is a very child-like essence to the Pisces, sometimes they live like Peter Pan and never want to grow up. They might reject normal relationships for the fear of missing out on the excitement. It's like they want someone but they don't want to be tied down in an annoying "we're a couple" kind of way. Pisces needs to learn that they will never get what they want until they truly value them self. Dwelling, never got the fish anywhere, but if you're simply looking to make peace with your past Pisces, validation from others is highly important to them so you will likely get the solace you crave. Either that or it will be so very obvious that Pisces wants nothing to do with you, let alone look at you. You will feel the disdain and unspoken messages in the room, especially upon the dance floor.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20): As stated before, Gems are not big on dwelling on people from the past, but because they attract so many suitors, there is likely someone who they will shoot daggers at or who will shoot daggers at them. The daggers come from Gemini if it was someone who didn't give them the attention they desired. This or they will just work harder in order to get it. The role of," the one who got away", is more likely for Gemini, but the one who didn't value Gemini is unfathomable, and therefore Gem will makes that person feel small with cheap insults and shitty, self-indulgent banter. Gemini is the king/queen of drama, maybe they didn't even ask for it and become a victim of it. Maybe they started it or maybe they are just involved in other people's drama. This will consume Gemini if they let it. Gems are usually very charming (or very fucking quiet and weird) so if they are the one that got away, you won't necessarily understand why things went wrong. They said all the right things. They made all the right moves.
 Geminis are very flirtatious and like to have opposite sex situations occurring, but they are also very capable of stringing along a few prospects at the same time. It really just depends on where their head is at, if they aren't up for a relationship or ready for commitment it will show BIG TIME. She just may not be able to handle how many chic friends you have just as he may not understand how tight you are with all the guys. Gems are great at using their style and attractiveness to get what they want. At times they may even play dumb in order to create emphasis to their physical beauty, but be careful because the Gem is very wily and clever at the core. They have a way of getting what they want somehow, they just have to learn how to not listen to the self-destructive twin.If they want to work their magic, they will.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 20): You try your best to love em' and leave em', you try even harder to invest little emotions at the risk of protecting yourself, but when you fall hard, and let go of someone who could have had it all with -- you treat the relationship exactly like a competition, and as stated before, Sag hates to lose. Sag needs to look at these love losses as means for self gain, open up more, take even more risks and see where it gets you. Come out of that shell, which is surrounded by familiar adventures and people and see the world in a new light. No one is tallying up your loses, except for you, everyone sees your ability to win and win well. You're an amazing friend and a hard worker and deserve the  glory days
Sag is the dictionary definition of a player in that they love the game, and love to play in general. This doesn't always mean playing other people, but if they got away from you, they likely had game greed on the mind. They likely took the best exit to win because as stated earlier, they don't lose. Sag is the big boss player, and even if he/she pulled out all the stops, emotionally they are capable of coveting and won't be affected when they flee. You will be though. You will harp on their selfish nature and curse at how you still see them every where, and can't escape the memory of their flamboyant seduction. They charm naturally, but if rebuffed, will feel defeated. They don't like to be the person who is not calling the shots. If you try to cut Sag, they won't feel comfortable about you, but at the same time they might wish that you two were cool. They won't want you around and they won't know how to express how they truly feel towards you, which is likely just a mind-numbing state of awkwardness for the emotionally challenged Sag.
CAPRICORN (December 21-January 19): You like Taurus won't eliminate the one who could be getting away, you will stomp them when they least expect it. Capricorn has a natural sense of sensibility to them, which makes them appear calculated and old-fashioned. In reality, they have the ability to be wild, simply they need to meet the right person who will bring this out. If someone got away from Capricorn they will likely need to move on with someone else, almost instantly, or retreat in denial and obsession of the past and stay single for lengthy periods of time. Capricorn is not prepared to lose validation from anyone, if they feel entitled to it, they will get it. IF you have been burned by a Capricorn, don't expect them to come back. They will stick around until they are absolutely sure they are done with you. They might even come back at some point, in a ghost-like fashion, but the moment they say they are gone for good, they mean it. Their actions and words will be direct and to the point. Capricorn will only give sugar when they want to and this can't be forced. They love to please others and do well in creation, business and service, but they can't be forced into anything. He has the ability to be the biggest fucking asshole if charged--and she will throw down if you come at her. Capricorn might seem innocent, but fucking push their buttons and watch them blow up. They can hold down in a fight if they need to because they are pretty sure that they "know better". If Capricorn doesn't appear to be a sincerely good person, don't be concerned with getting their goodbye blessing, move forward, in time, you'll see how it didn't matter to begin with.
SCORPIO (October 23-November 21): The one that got away is likely in your bed right now as you read this. The reigns of a Scorpio are very tight, and once emotionally invested Scorpio finds it really hard to get out. In turn, when you are caught in the Scorpio trap, it is super hard to flee. You've likely been in and out of each other like a figure 8, which always seems to lead you back to each other, in the center of all your crap. Scorpio has a really hard time getting over someone they cared for, they will move on super slow, slug-mode or not at all. If Scorpio had a very long, serious and intense relationship (like Scorpios often do) it could take centuries for a true and successful detox to occur. They may be able to have crushes, but sexually they are an emotional sign. Meaning he/she will either fuck and fuck a lot to soften the pain, or he won't even be able to get it up because he's so emotionally pent up. She'll just concern herself in the sex lives and problems of others, but pursue nothing for herself (which she takes to heart) simply because she isn't over the past and is super independent. IF Scorpio got away and they aren't coming back to you, don't try to win them over. They are the master of NOT WRITING BACK, avoiding emotional conversation they don't trust you enough to engage in, and they will ignore you. This isn't to say they haven't thought about you. They are probably thinking about you none-stop, they just can't engage conversations, which require emotional commitments they aren't capable of. They don't know what to tell you. They are jealous but they cannot deal with jealousy. Though known as the wicked sign of the zodiac, which you don't want to cross, Scorpio usually has a very loving, passionate and understanding nature about them. They probably want the best for you and in time may even become a friend OR a very hated enemy who makes you feel awkward because they LOOK at you, but yet, SAY NOTHING.
CANCER (June 21-July 21): If you are the one who got away, Cancer won't forget you, they will play you like a bad track on repeat-- they will take you into the shell. They might even move on, but they will move on with the ghost in their emotional backpack, simply because Cancer finds it so hard to be alone and Cancer loves to self-destruct--even if this means playing the records of the past on repeat. They thrive in relationships and therefore get over their pasts within their private shell or through intense excursion, or new flirtation. Cancer is a very emotional sign, so if someone they adored got away, then it may take a very long time to truly move on. The coin is easily flipped here, however, as Cancer can be so needy, and desperate to protect someone of the opposite sex, they may just rush back into a relationship (of some kind) simply because Cancer is shit when living in complete solitude even if 'alone' is a place where they often retreat. Cancer has maternal/paternal instincts, which cannot go ignored, therefore they feel the need to have someone they can sincerely care for and share life with. Without that Cancer becomes very moody and uninspired. They like Pisces, need a lot of reassurance and with these signs, it often can't come from within, which is why they crave a partner and true love to the extended degree, which they do. These signs will achieve this easily, but they need to deal with the emotions from the past, which are blocking them.

If Cancer left you, it's because they were the one worth leaving. They make amazing partners when they love you truly, and if they don't, they can be shady, bitchy, unresponsive and un-affectionate. It's not entirely all or nothing, but you'll be able to tell if he/she is not happy with you. The moods of a Cancer are ever-changing but very sincere in their execution. Cancer will stick around until they are through, and they might just stick around so long that it makes you even more pissed when they left, but spare yourself, a crappy cancer is a kick in the junk, you don't want any part of it!
LIBRA (September 23-October 22): You need to re-direct your focus, you are likely the one who got away for many. You're not really the type to sit and pine over one person. You'll move on because for you, relationships should bring joy and not drama. You want to enjoy life to the fullest and if people try to bring you down with their emotional BS, pain or suffering (caused by you), then you are more likely to straight out ignore it and peace. You can't help it if you're living an awesome life, you do what you what, right? Wrong! Libra, as much as you'd like to think, life is not all play and jokes. Sometimes you actually have to step up to the plate and be emotional. Emotional, Libra will be if you got away from them, they aren't often in the position of caring or even giving anyone their sole, true and entire commitment. Libra is charming and lovable, but they aren't likely to give you everything that you want right away because they are too busy weighing out the scales of other prospects. Libra is capable of having more than one pursuit, crush or sexual interest at the same time. Sex can just be play for the Libra, they are capable of removing emotion from the equation and will do this, but don't be surprised when they don't want anything. Some people under this sign cannot be held down, by anyone, and the moment you try, you will be rebuffed. If you go along for the flight you might get something out of it in time, but it won't be storybook, it will be interesting and if you are lucky, so fucking worth it!

LEO (July 22-August 22): You might be so hard-pressed by the one who got away that you never truly loved again with the same, open sincerity. I know a Leo male who fell in love at 12, got hurt, and never opened up again. For some, especially for a king or queen like character, the pain to the pride can be too much to bear. For her, she might just stalk the fuck out of you until you either start worshiping her again or try to plot her fictional murder. Leo is a tough one because they love very intensely, meaning that if they love you, they want to take it to the next level. Ask any Leo, they have dated a lot of people, and not in a dry, lame manner, but in a passionate, loving and memorable fashion. If Leo go away, it can be hard to get over, simply because most Leos look so good on paper. There are certain qualities that good Lions have, which are hard to forget, and you could just totally see you guys together OMG.
IF Leo is a dick, they are a huge dick. They will be so invested in their own ego that they will step on you if they need to. They are flaky, remember this, and if he/she is not into you expect to be flaked around. If Leo puts their mates before you, it's honestly because they aren't that into you. Simple, twisted and weird to say, but likely true. Leo is fucking loyal but if you don't feel a sense of loyalty from them, move on. If they are into you, you'll know it. The make all the right moves and treat you with the same respect, which they demand back. Never mind, you have to respect Leo a bit more, naturally.
ARIES (March 20-April 19): You're not the type to let anyone get away with a true concern and even if they do, and it bothers you, you won't let people know. You don't want to be that person, to anyone. You're need for control prevents you from being weak about matters of the heart because you won't let the opposite sex see you vulnerable. You have to hustle as an Aries, you have to be self-involved and focused. If anyone interferes with this-- they won't stick around. Aries is stubborn so if they aren't interested in you anymore, you will know it. They will flat out ignore you (even if they expect YOU to come to them in the first place). They will be mean to you. They will argue with you. They will be bitch you. They won't make time for you. They will fuck your best friend. They will do whatever, in order to let you know that they are no longer interested in you. Aries does not let people in easily, so good fucking luck if you like them and feel insecure about it. Good chance is that this insecurity arose with good reason, considering that if Aries were truly into you, you'd never doubt it. If Aries is hard done by (especially if Aries has been hard done by in his past life), they too will have a hard time coming back from this because this almost never happens to the ram. Aries, is rarely the person who is heart broken, because they keep their heart under steel plated glass, they don't open themselves up to getting hurt. If society were to take a poll I wouldn't be surprised if it stated that a vast majority of Aries found their true love, a lot later in life. In this case the suppressed anger will be hard to deal with. Maybe he punched the new guy you are with, maybe you've gotten some seriously evil looks/competitive jabs from her, but at the same time, it's likely Aries will play the friendly card, and fuck your head over. Why let you know I ever care? Aries is no body's puppy dog and not about to give you that kind of validation ever. Aries has a sense of self-worth and isn't about to suspend this for anyone.
VIRGO (August 23-September 22): You are likely the one who got away, but you have a knack for coming back. Virgo doesn't know when they are done. They have a gambler mentality and will weigh out the pros and cons of a given relationship until they are blue in the face. The Virgo doesn't make sudden move, they calculate, they think before they move, before they speak, and before they execute. They might be holding their phone in the air, with their finger on send, contemplating whether or not they should message you. Keep in mind if Virgo left you, it's because they can't give you what you want. If you start to act too lovey-dovey or available, Virgo will freak and need space. They can't do stereotypical love. Stemmed from a critical nature, they react well to the truth and won't be easily wooed. They want your attention but they want the attention of other things,  and if they got away, they will only want your attention when it suites their own personal needs. If you got away from Virgo, they won't forget about you. You will stay forever in their mind and they will pine over you, they might make subtle moves to get you back, but Virgo doesn't like to take chances on things they can't control the outcome of.
IF they know you are 100% down for them at any given time then they will use this notion as a get-out-of-jail-free card for the next time they need some loving, but don't get all pent up on what it means. Virgo will be the best fucking partner in crime/catch of the year if they are into you, but when Virgo isn't comfortable with them self they will self-destruct in a honest fashion, which will only fall poorly on you. Anything emotional Virgo is unprepared to deal with -- they will ignore. Never try to tell a Virgo their business. The best Virgo advice, is do fucking nothing until you hear from them. They need to know your gone in order for them to come back, and they will, but you can't make this too easy -- you have to realize that Virgo wants what they can't have, so be irresistible. If you truly need to talk it out or want to know where you stand, Virgo is likely to directly tell, Virgo is likely to respond because they don't want to burn bridges. Virgo has a voodoo that they do, if your not careful they will cast a sexy spell on you.

Trust always comes into play with the one who got away. The actions of that past person might make it hard for you to open up and realize that not everyone is going to dispose of you so quickly. Trust people, because if you don't, how do you ever expect to meet anyone worth being with?

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